When Hope Is Like Dope

The first time I heard a great motivational speaker, I was hooked. I loved to be motivated. I attended every “motivational” seminar I could find.

All that must have motivated me because I spent over 30 years as a motivational (usually as defined by others) speaker. I loved the laughs and applause that became crucial to me. I was motivated to get my audience motivated. I was motivated to receive their “love.”

If I was too long away from the stage, I felt an emptiness. What I needed was another ego upload. I was motivated to motivate others to help myself. I was at the pinnacle of selfishness. I was in it for me. I was a performer and needed a place to perform. 

One day, after a successful talk, a young woman approached me. I’d seen her in other seminars I’d given but had never met her. She seemed shy and hesitant. She shook my hand and thanked me.

Her compliment was that my talks motivated her, got her excited to the degree that she always knew she could achieve her goals, she felt strong and capable after she left the auditorium.

Unfortunately, within a day or sometimes hours, she crashed. Her old self-doubt returned. Her excitement was nowhere to be found again. She listened to some of my audios, and those of others again and got a spark but not enough to relight the fire she felt in the seminar room.

I’d been speaking regularly for about five years at that point. Her remarks set off a cold shower of unclean feelings in me. That became the wake-up call I needed to continue my work in ways that would be, at least for me, more meaningful, more helpful to others.

It was the beginning of the formulation of a higher intention and a realization of the power of what real motivation was and the incomplete version I’d been consuming and spewing for so long.

While it took time for me to truly get it, I began to have a higher intention for my talks and writings. What did I need to do to help people beyond the exits of the seminar rooms where I was speaking?

Don’t get me wrong; I was still a captive of ego at times. In this way, though, the ego can be very positive. It’s called a “healthy” ego. It propelled me to better performances, but my dual purpose was to find a way to not only instill hope through motivation but to go beyond hope.

I was a bit confused for a time, though. What’s beyond hope? What is the next step?

I realized that hope was like dope. It burns out. All the energy that is created through excitement depletes your physical and mental system. Like a narcotic, after a period of exhaustion from it, you need another “fix.”

People were motivated to re-discover more motivation. People like me sold a lot of audios and videos as a result of that. For many of us, it was unconscious. We thought we were doing the right thing.

Of course, all that motivation in a seminar room did motivate attendees to buy more “motivational” products from us. GO! GO! GO! GO!

So, the addicted were preaching to the addicted.

The AHA!

Everyone who searches for motivation begins by wanting to help themselves to complete the intentions they had for better lives, whatever that meant to them.

So, motivation to excitement was great but only if it could help find the next key to unlock the door to the completion of their intentions. What was that?

One day it dawned on me. It was a real AHA!

Inspiration! If we can find the motivation that moves us to become inspired, isn’t that a powerful result?

Inspiration is soft power. It creates a more stable resolution. It moves us to commitment.

Motivation isn’t required to become inspired. Haven’t you read a book, seen a movie, or heard a story that inspired you to be or do better? When we fall in love, we are often inspired to become greater than we believe we are.

 But motivation is a powerful wake-up component to move us. When we are motivated by intention, that is to go beyond the immediate excitement to create and accomplish; we become activated.

Wanting something more must be more than a wish, it must become a great intention. Having more money is a motivator but not always a realistic purpose for one reason. Many people can’t see beyond their struggle. “Who am I to get more money? How could I? I can’t do what ‘they’ can do,” etc.

Inspiration can guide us to find the reasons to go beyond self-doubt. All these great people we know about are always examples of what’s possible. Their struggles then are often our struggles now.

Of course, when we view those highly accomplished people we admire, we usually only see them as they are now, not thinking about their past self-doubts and fears of inadequacies.

To my amazement, some top celebrities, millionaires, and other accomplished people that I came to know, and in some cases, coach, had all those fears at times, even after they’d “made it.” But what set them apart was those fears didn’t stop them, fear motivated them to find the inspiration to maintain and then succeed to greater heights.

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I also saw some highly successful people dwindle to, “Whatever happened to…” The cause of their decline could have been for any number of reasons. Looking back, the primary reason they didn’t sustain or advance was consistent. They lost their inspiration.

None of this is the magic wand towards the completion of our intentions. Self-awareness and a constant self-checkup are. An ongoing search to discover or re-discover the resources we need to find completion in our lives,

We can’t let our guard down as we move through through life, seeking to be better than before.

There is no single completion to fit the definition of success. Not money, learning, fame, or self-satisfaction. It’s all a process. Every completion leads us to a new awareness of not only our capabilities, which are always greater than we think, but also to new possibilities and beliefs.

Don’t kick yourself for not being whatever it is you think you should be at this point in life.

Stop the self-anger at your lack of anything in your life.

Do take responsibility for where you are and then forgive yourself. Much as you would forgive your children for their missteps.

Learning by good and bad examples don’t stop at adolescence, it’s a constant. But the adult has to heighten their awareness beyond the bad feelings that come with what they deem as failures.

You would not have read this, let alone finish it, if you weren’t already on your way to find the completions in your life.

Failure is not the problem, quitting is. The answer lies in your next “completion.”

Tom Justin – The Completion Coach

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