“I’m sorry to hear about your problems.”

That was the statement I found myself saying the other day to an acquaintance of mine. I also attempted to help him find a solution, but he was too intent on not only feeling sorry for himself, but in enlisting others to do the same for him. At least until I was able to convince him otherwise.

His timing was perfect as I’d just completed a coaching session with a client of mine. He’s a highly respected psychiatrist and university professor who is a master manifester. He has problems like everyone else. but the difference is that he solves his and other people’s problems by aggressively using all the tools available to him.

He uses not only the tools of his trade, but uses other people’s resources such as our coaching relationship. There is a graceful synchronicity that occurs with him and is a good reminder to me that it’s available to us all in solving the problems of our lives, big and small.

I was reminded of a technique that I’ve taught in my seminars and used with other clients through the years.

Basic problem solving is a 3-step process.

Of course, we want instant results and that won’t always happen. However, the eventual result for a successful outcome will always begin immediately, even if we don’t see it when beginning this process.

Everyone has the first step down. The challenge is they may not go to number 2 for a long time, if ever. First the 3 steps, then how to implement them.

1. Acknowledge the problem.
2. Acknowledge that there is a solution to it.
3. T.A.N Take Action NOW.

1. Acknowledge the problem. Magnify it, inspect it. Attempt to understand it better and how it may have come about. If you feel blame towards any third party, fine, but then come back to yourself. What was your part in it? We are always a part of the problems we have.

Don’t berate yourself over it. Pledge to learn from it, even if it’s as simple as increasing your awareness. Which is something worthwhile to tune in to daily, regardless of how well things are going.

2. Acknowledge that there is a solution for it. Yes, there is a solution, somewhere, somehow. People at any given moment are either problem conscious or solution conscious. As long as you’re the former, the problem can’t possibly be solved. Shift!

Don’t worry about what it isn’t, pledge to find the clues to a solution. Great inventions, chemistry, and philosophies have been discovered because of individuals who were confronted with the impossible, so they had to make them possible.

3. T.A.N Take Action NOW. People with problems can only have two outcomes, victim or victorious. There is no middle ground.

Impatience will be your greatest enemy if it brings you to quitting. Sometimes your solution may be to go another way, join with another person, remove yourself from certain people who may be a party in the causes of your problems. Quitting a job is not the same as quitting. Quitting a project may not be either.

In fact, the phrase giving up, may be more apt. As Winston Churchill said in a famous speech, “Never, never, never, give up!”

 Find another way.

This is always where a discussion with my coaching clients ensues. How do you know you’re not quitting? What does giving up or not giving up mean? These are the mini or sub-problems before many a solution is discovered.

The process for solving these sub-problems is the same. Sometimes you need assistance from a trusted friend, advisor, psychologist or coach. These are all a part of the tools of life to keep in mind.

The Human Potential.

 You are a live solution creating mechanism. Activate Your “Inner Wizard,” it’s always there, waiting for your command.

Keep searching. Answers exist, sometimes in the most unlikely places.

Never give up.

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